I’m very much for direct communication and a lot of my male friends and acquaintances through the years have seen me as more male in this aspect than most females. SAY IT STRAIGHT, seems to be my motto. I hate beating around bushes, except for fun. Flirting has always been my great toy, and among those of my age or older I have found many willing partners for this entertainment. It is of course essential that all involved are aware it is just for amusement 😉 but such thing can be cleared before you get deep into the fun. At least that’s what adults should do. Yet, I absolutely hate what is happening to the great art of flirting nowadays.
Wikipedia states “Flirting or coquetry is a social and sometimes sexual activity involving verbal or written communication as well as body language by one person to another, suggesting an interest in a deeper relationship with the other person. In most cultures, it is socially disapproved for a person to make explicitly sexual advances, but indirect or suggestive advances (i.e., flirting) may be considered acceptable. On the other hand, some people flirt playfully, for amusement. ”
I definitely am of the “old-school” where flirting was taken as fun, an exercise of the mind and not so much a serious matter that would lead to actual sex. I have been though by old-timers (grandparents born in 1910’s&20’s, including one countess among them), where flirt was meant as amusement most of the time, and though it could lead to more serious things as it served as great testing ground for the wit of your counterpart, majority of time it did not. It also meant that a man accepted and approved of witting and intelligent woman he was flirting with, approved of her as a human being and a partner in conversational battle of words, jokes, and subtle hints.
Throughout recent years of observation of the Internet and the young, I have discovered the sad truth that to wast majority of ‘new generations’ flirting EQUALS to getting into the undies of the other involved party… where is fun in that? where is the mind exercise?
Real flirting is like a game of chess, just played with words and body language.. and that’s where ‘beating around the bush’ is more than proper and welcomed. Some of the best and most trusted friends I have ever made happened to me made via simple flirtation. It serves as a great test of intellect, it can be very entertaining and it definitely does not have to lead to anything more serious than that. Hell, there was even one friend I had in L2 Dragon Network, who asked my character to marry his… and none though twice of it… neither my hubby, nor our guild members (all way above 20 back then)….only younger people from other guilds would get the funky idea that were having affair …I really don’t grasp where they would get that idea from…. maybe except for potential misunderstanding of our constant teasing and flirting with each other. That once again…both of us knew would lead to nothing more than mutual intellectual fun 😉
Ohh, what a sad life they lead not knowing the fun of flirting and taking it way too seriously. How sad, that they all can’t see past sex. I agree – sex is enjoyable and can be great, but there is so much more to exercising your own brain in such inter-human way. So, stop over-simplifying things, bringing them down to mechanics of intercourse, and start enjoying flirt for what it is… one of the best games of the mind that you could play.