Psychological problems with switching to Nozbe.com

I’m no psychologist, mind you, but I do like to see myself as an observant and analytical individual.

This post is based purely on my observation over the years of users, and also of myself. Some five years ago I was in the position of any new Nozbe user… no clue about the system… little or no knowledge of the GTD.

 That’s why I have decided to chip in my 5 cents here and point out some of the most common issues a new user might have. Surely, to some this may be discouraging, but I do have to say that it is worth the pain.

 We are all raised with certain beliefs on how one should organize their day. Those principles grow out of observation of our parents, grandparents and later on of our teachers and professors. But for the most part we do not take one aspect into account…that the times change…and as result that which was sufficient or efficient for the older generation might not go well with what is expected of us or what we expect of ourselves. This often leads to frustration and looking for alternative time management solutions.

And here is where Nozbe.com (http://webapp.nozbe.com/a-Amirgse ) appears.

 It is one of many of programs found out there. It is certainly not a cheap solution, but yet tens of thousands of users pay for it. Why do you think they (and I also) feel it is worth it? What is the magic behind it?

 Well, Nozbe concentrates not so much on time management and ordering your tasks as on helping you, encouraging you to get them done… but (yes there is a ‘but’) before you jump at it…it also needs you to think about your duties in a bit of a different way than most of the programs out there. So if you are looking for spending your time on fiddling around with tasks – look elsewhere.  If you want to get things really done – this is the spot for you.

You can say that Nozbe is ‘flat’ in a sense.

There are no priorities. Why? For one, at the end of the day does it really matter what you did first? Or is the fact that you did it more important? I think the fact of getting it done is they key.

Besides if you really need to do things in a certain order and not by their contexts, then ‘drag’n’drop’ allows you to set whatever order you like among your tasks.

There are no sub-tasks or sub-projects. Why? Here David Allen’s book on “Getting Things Done” comes into play … he says that any task that you need to do but requires more then one step is a project… Now why is that? One of the reasons behind it, and behind Nozbe.com being the way it is, is that this flat 1 level organization allows you to see how much you really are getting done and as you task list shortens throughout the day you actually get encouraged to do more and more, because you easily can see the effects. We humans love instant gratification… GTD and Nozbe.com if used properly can give us a sense of it. It is just a different way of looking at the things you do anyway. Multi-level tasks and ever more projects seem never to end…and I do not find that very encouraging if you never really see anything major done.

Now, some can say that they don’t have a problem with that… that most of us have an internal urge for priorities and making multi-level projects that are really very daunting. This is a result of all those years observing how previous generations dealt with matters. For them, with more time, it was fine to sit down with pen and paper and write out their day in point and order… for us… that time can be used for the simple purpose of actually getting things done.

It took me over a year to stop thinking in terms of priorities and looking at things to do in this ‘flat’ perspective. I can’t imagine how hard this can be for older users, but I have to say it is worth every drop of sweat put into it. I do not regret the change I have made, it has made me encouraged and happier about everyday work. And I hope my post will help others in Getting Things Done and being happier about what they do in their daily lives. 

Philosophers should live according to their own rules!!!

We have a saying in Poland: ‘Don’t expect a philosopher to live according to his own rules.’ Well, I think that is just BS.

 

In my life I have met many people with great ideas. Some of them even were published authors of different DIY books. DIY in the sense of advising others on how to live a more active, productive or whatever-else life. The sad part is that quite a few of them did not really use their own knowladge and ideas in their own lives… they were wannabies. Claimed that they did apply their ideas, but that was not really true… I believe them to simply be hypocrites, wouldn’t you agree?

 

Tell me, what is the point of giving advice which you have not tried it out yourself? How can you just state that one should do this or that without even giving it a shot of your own???

 

I believe in practicing what you preach!!! Or as others say tasting your own poison!!!

(that’s why this post is short….trying to take my own advice ;-D)

Cashism

I think it is part of human nature to hate someone. Usually, if we do not have a particular person in our life that we despise, we turn to hating some group. Some hate white people, some hate yellow yet others hate everyone. I’m not planning on talking here about how unconstructive or constructive hate can be, but about one particular type that I have called for my own purposes cashism.

It is hate and discrimination of other people based on the perceived contents of their purse. Not all who practice it on a daily basis even realize they are doing it. It kind of just happens. This contemptuous feeling starts from a small grain of pride that we have managed to get to some level of ownership and our friends have not. This pride can of course be used to constructive ends – of increasing ones own wealth and helping others… or it can lead to the destructive approach of superiority.

I will tell you a little story about myself and my experience with this. I had been going through a rough patch in my life for a bit, and I don’t mean only financially but foremost psychologically. I stopped caring for a while about my outfits and make up and was simply too busy concentrating on my son and his issues, on my work and several other things… which lead me to neglect my wardrobe and beauty box. As result I looked like a typical 30+ year-old lower middle class housewife… without really being one. The way I looked and still do in a way (working on that bit now) said nothing about who I was, what I knew, my education or level of intelligence. It only said “I’m too busy to give a crap about how I look,” or as most interpreted it, “I’m too poor to take care of how I look.” I say most, because 90% of those I had met along the road treated me as I looked… like ‘white-trash.” I even got those looks from cashiers in clothing stores like, “What the hell is she doing here, we are too expensive for her.” Finally, one day it hit me… they did not give me even a chance, they treated me for most part like an unwelcome guest or in a few cases as a potential danger of theft. Why, because of the stuff I wore and the lack of make up.

Then I changed one little thing in my outfit and put on some make up. I bought a coat I really liked, though it was not cheap. It made them all react to me differently. This made me come to the conclusion that something is wrong with our society. Those shop assistants that just a few days before we looking at my hands, were now looking at me and asking with genuine interest if they could be of help….Why? Because that little change made me look ‘elegant but relaxed,’ so my worn-out military pants or red Dr.Martens shoes stopped being the main highlight. Now they look at me like someone who has cash…. and not little of it.

What is wrong is that we tend to judge the book by its cover.. My clothing does not say who I am…it does not say what I’m worth …. Yet a lot of people instead of approaching all people equally judge others by the outfits they wear. Who is worthy of their attention and who is not. My two degrees, my 5 languages and life experience all go unnoticed if I do not wear something that shows it off… All that is worth nothing because some back-water girl who came to a big town to earn a living looks me down – in her eyes I’m just unworthy of being in the store where she works, because I do not look like I have the money.

Well, this is really a cashism. Judging people based on the stuff they have as opposed to what they know or their intelligence.